The Double Tap Conundrum
The entire millennial
generation is hooked onto the social media. This is not bad or good either. It’s
a personal choice. The need for social validation and being a pack goes back to
the times when humans were hunting and staying in groups. Times changed
drastically, we all started hunting for food using supermarkets and our arenas
of food became the wonderfully decorated aisles and the sale boards. Our clothing
issues changed from covering for protection to covering for self-confidence and
happiness because who are we kidding, everyone feels confident when dressed
properly and looking dapper. Our basic needs are still the same, with the
addition of the internet and the accessories and additions that come along with
it.
Social validation
is one of the most important catalysts of human development. If a person feels
like the society like and confirms him or her…then that person feels satisfied
in being.
When a
person, let’s say Jane, posts a photo of herself doing something. Jane’s
picture gets likes from everywhere. Alex, her friend looks it up on the
internet and has an urge to do it because if jane can do it, the he can too. So,
in turn Alex puts up a better version of himself doing that particular
activity. Alex has several friends who like and comment on his posts. These friends
start doing that activity. Somewhere, somehow, this activity becomes a hit
everywhere. From pop stars and celebrities to the very common lay people with
internet and a decent camera get engaged in doing that activity. The news channels,
print media, tabloids all go crazy over covering this story. This is the birth
of something known as a social media challenge.
These challenges
can have a very good effect on people that would galvanize them toward becoming
better people. Challenges keep the people doing new and good things … but is
that always true?
The above
story of Jane, Alex and their friends was the idealizsed version of it. A version
where everyone knows that they are doing it for fun, where it won’t matter much
to them and it is a method of being happy. Let me make the lesser known story
of the person who is hurting because of it known. Let’s call our protagonist
here Alyssa. Alyssa, a teenager, who also has a phone and internet sees the new
challenge. She too feels like doing that challenge. She does it. Unlike others,
Alyssa gets detrimental comments from her own friends about her characteristics.
She gets told by some faceless person that she is too thin or too fat or that
her body doesn’t conform to the social standards. Many of her friends too do
that. Alyssa, now without validation, tries to get it another time. She does a
new challenge and posts new photos. The trolls don’t stop. The faceless
monsters now become something that haunts Alyssa all the time. Every time she
decides to do something offline, the storm of self-doubt makes her retreat even
before stepping out. Alyssa decides that she has no value in the real life
since the “society” that she sought validation from shunned her. All of her real
friends try to reach out to her, but since Alyssa is so caught up in the virtual
world, they eventually give up trying. A few of them still keep knocking at her
door, but our dear Alyssa is already far gone. Through the closed door, her
friends keep telling her to leave everything and cut all the negative out of
her life. They tell her to start a journey toward the light and seek the real
meaning of life. Alyssa does just that. She cuts up her veins, veins that have
all the blood which carries the genes and wanting to be validated. She lets it
flow and lets all the negativity loose and into the drain. She begins a journey
towards the light.
Today,
there are so many Alyssa’s around us. So many of our friends, peers are
struggling with mental health issues all arising from social media. This side
of social media has taken so many people with it.
We must now ask some basic
integral questions to ourselves. We must look in the mirror of our souls and
ask,
Who are
you?
What makes
you happy?
Are you content?
Are you
hurting?
And the
most important of all,
Are you
living to the fullest?
We must all
become pillars of support for each other. We must spread positivity and love, both online and offline. Shunning someone because they might post something
that is not “socially correct” is awful. We must now realize that there is
nothing like being socially fit. Society should not be what makes a set of
rules and squares to fit in. It must be something that opens up its arms for everyone
and accepts them irrespective of their vices. A society is the feeling of “vasudhaiva
kutumbakam” i.e. the world is our family. A healthier world where a child in Africa
is happy because someone in Korea shared a new story. Where the people from different
countries look at the plethora of problems in each other’s country and offer solutions.
A world
where the importance of the double taps for validation fades away and double
taps and positive comments pour in from everywhere making the world a happy
place to live in.
Very well written. So true and real facts about social media..
ReplyDeleteAlmost every age group has trapped into this social media challenge.
Nice write-up.👍
Thanks! I'm glad you liked it.
Deleteabsolutely true!
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